Oftentimes, I have felt ‘drained’ by the end of the day from socialising with people.  Constantly surrounding myself with family, friends, coworkers, or just random people can be mentally and physically exhausting.

Even during the pandemic, while most people struggle to avoid social interaction, some people were deeply embracing the entire solidity in Ultimate peaceful solace.

I’m not sure if that’s because I’m an introvert or if it’s just something that happens to everyone, but not many people understand it. When I first became aware of this sensation, I assumed there was something wrong with me. I was trying to figure out why this weary feeling hits me at times.


Sometimes I even sought to distance myself from my closed ones for several weeks due to this feeling and I thought it was all bad and wrong. However, as I grew older and gained a better understanding of myself, I realised that I had simply entered a phase of ‘solitude’ in order to reboot my system from this world of chaos.

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It’s my way of getting back on track, seeing things more clearly, and being at peace. Because I frequently fall into the trap of being in this distracting society, along with social media, social issues, family problems, and so on.

When I disengage and retreat into my shell, I am able to experience things that I could not see in the presence of others. In other words, I can even say, “I’ve discovered bliss in solitude.”

If this has occurred to you, there is nothing wrong with you, and in fact, there is nothing wrong with feeling this way.

According to THE HINDU, renowned educationist J. Krishnamurti encourages students to spend time alone in order to explore their inner depths. He cautioned, “You cannot find out about yourself if you are always talking, going about with your friends with half a dozen people.” 

Enjoy your alone time, whether you go for a walk, listen to music in your room, or sit quietly on a park bench. While being connected to your devices and this world, you get disconnected from yourself.

Only when you remove yourself from society’s humming buzz can you see how you are influenced by sociocultural forces, says writer Brent Crane in The Atlantic.

Even when socialising can provide peace and happiness, it is far more important to find happiness within yourself. For some, solitude is an uncomfortable act, but once you’ve mastered the art of being alone without feeling lonely, surviving other things becomes a breeze and you become independent naturally. 

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Perspective can be gained through solitude. When you’re caught up in the minute details of daily life, all you can see is what’s right in front of you – the problem at hand. If you want to see and appreciate the big picture of what your life is all about, you need to take a step back and get a bird’s-eye view, which solitude provides.

So what I am trying to convey here is that it is perfectly alright to just immerse yourself in solitude every now and then. Simply think of it as a way to recharge your body, mind, and soul.

We can be free from the influences of others when we are alone. We can discover our true values in serenity this way. Solitude reminds us that social expectations frequently invite loneliness.

Instead, we can connect with the most hallow part of all, our own mind and soul, when we are alone.

So go for a hike, meditate, paint, go for a long-drive, solo travel (once the borders are open, of course) or simply gaze out the window. Allow yourself to be free from others’ judgements and buzzes, even if its only for a few minutes. Perhaps being alone isn’t such a bad thing.

Being alone does not mean you are lonely, it means you are strong enough to handle the unpredictability of life.

Solitude also means you can do anything you want in life and that is liberating!

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