The whole purpose of this article is for me to share my story and hope that the people around me would be able to understand why unsolicited advice from random “aunties” are really pointless. Also, this is an article dedicated to Indian women; it does not mean that this has never happened to women of other ethnicities. Now that that is out of the way, let’s jump into the article!
Ever since I was a little girl, I was always told what to do. But the question is, did I oblige? Answer is yes and no. There were times when I felt so grateful when someone pointed things out to me and told me what to do as mentally, I was not doing very well. Then, there were also times when I would get unsolicited advice from random people, telling me how to live my life. So, here’s the thing. You can never totally avoid it, but you can sort of deal with it.
There is a guideline that I follow, which is that, never bring pain and hurt to another person’s life with your choices. Physical pain I mean! Emotionally, if they cannot fathom your decision, then there is nothing you can do about it. Sometimes, some nonchalance is good for you.
I do admit that, this might not be for everyone as I acknowledge my privileges. I was blessed enough to have a tertiary education and that has empowered me in ways I cannot describe. But, all I am asking for is, to step out of your comfort zone today and empower yourself by making a decision for yourself and by yourself. It could be the smallest thing like clothing, food or even a movie! Today, it is a small step, but ultimately, you are subconsciously empowering yourself. Try it. Trust me, it’s addictive!
To answer the main question, I think why Indian women are always told what to do is because the people who are telling them lack empowerment to live their own lives. They find their sense of fulfilment through managing the lives of others. If you are an “auntie” reading this article, I urge you to acknowledge this behaviour and start reflecting on your life choices. Is someone telling you what to do? Look closer! Set an example for the upcoming generation by being an empowered woman! Remember,
“ Empowered women empower people”
